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05 August 2025 · Updated 07 August 2025 · Views: 6

The Truth About Doom Spending: Why It Feels Good (but Doesn’t Work)

Lexy Pacheco

Lexy Pacheco

Focused chiropractic DONA, certified doula

Reviewed by Lexy Pacheco

The Truth About Doom Spending: Why It Feels Good (but Doesn’t Work)

 I Just Needed Something to Feel Okay for a Minute

That late-night click to buy, the thrill of checking the tracking number—doom spending gives you a brief sense of control when life is out of control. It's not really about what you're buying; it's about the temporary escape it offers: a rush of dopamine, a way to forget about your worries, or a way to fill an emotional hole. But when the package arrives, the relief often goes away just as quickly, leaving behind guilt, mess, or money problems.

This isn't about making yourself feel bad for wanting comfort. It's about figuring out what your spending is trying to heal and finding kinder, longer-lasting ways to meet those needs. There are ways to calm yourself down that won't leave you with empty wallets and full closets, whether you're lonely, burned out, or just want to feel better. Let's look at what really makes you want to do it and how to deal with it without hurting yourself.

"You weren't born to shop to feel better. But you were born with the ability to find it, right below all those urges".

What Is Doom Spending?

Doom spending is when people buy things on impulse because they are feeling overwhelmed by their emotions. It is a short-term way to escape stress, anxiety, or existential dread (like climate change or economic instability). It's not just "bad budgeting" or being silly; it's a way to deal with things when they feel out of control, like when your inner world feels out of control. The rush of placing an order gives you a brief sense of control—"At least I can choose this"—even if you regret it later.

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This kind of behavior is often similar to doom scrolling (constantly reading bad news) and "retail therapy." It goes up when people are unsure of themselves (like during pandemics or recessions) or when they are burned out and don't have any more emotional energy. What is the main difference between casual shopping and doom spending? It's not about the item; it's about filling an emotional need. The first step toward healthier options is to realize this.

"You aren't careless; you're clever. You’ve been using spending to survive.  Now let's look for tools that feed us instead of numbing us".

Why We Do It:
The Emotional Root of Doom Spending

The Psychology Behind Doom Spending

Doom spending is often caused by a strong need to control emotions when things are stressful or uncertain. When you're anxious or overwhelmed, shopping can make you feel like you have some control over things, which can help you feel powerful when other parts of your life feel out of control. When you choose and buy something, your brain releases a reward that makes you feel better right away when you're feeling helpless or bored. But this relief doesn't last long, and it is often followed by guilt or financial stress, which can keep the cycle going as you look for another "fix."

The Role of Dopamine and Anticipation

Our brains are wired to look for rewards, but doom spending gets in the way of this natural drive. Dopamine, the "feel-good" chemical, floods the brain when you think about buying something, like scrolling through items and adding them to your cart. When you're feeling down, this rush can feel like a lifeline. But as soon as the item gets there, the dopamine goes away, and you start looking for the next one. Doom spending is like emotional fast food: it makes you feel better in the moment but doesn't help you in the long run.

The Hidden Needs Beneath the Spending

There is often an unmet emotional need behind every unnecessary purchase. Are you buying things because you're lonely and want to connect with people through online shopping? Do you want something new because your daily life is getting boring? Or are you trying to fill a hole left by being tired by shopping instead of getting real rest? The first step in breaking the cycle is to see these hidden drivers. Instead of judging yourself, ask yourself, "What am I really looking for here?"

Breaking the Cycle with Compassion 

The answer isn't to shame yourself into holding back; it's to find better ways to meet those needs. If you want to feel in control, could making a small, planned choice, like organizing a drawer, give you the same feeling? Could you call a friend instead of going to the checkout page if you're lonely? You can replace doom spending with habits that really help you by dealing with the root emotions. It's not about being perfect; it's about making progress one mindful choice at a time.

Real-Life Patterns and Examples

The situations are all too familiar: "I had a terrible day at work, and now I'm $200 deep in an online cart I don't remember filling." Or "It's 2 a.m., I'm tired but wired, and now three 'limited edition' skincare sets are on their way." You might have told yourself, "I deserve this," but then you feel bad when the package arrives or when you get your bank statement. These things don't happen in a vacuum. Doom spending has become a silent epidemic, especially since 2020, when things seem to be always uncertain and people are running out of emotional energy.

Why These Things Happen:

  • Emotional Escapes: Spending money can help you get away from stress, loneliness, or existential dread for a short time.
  • Decision Fatigue: Your willpower is lowest at night or after doing something hard, which makes it harder to say no to impulse buys.
  • The "Deserve It" Trap: When things are tough, buying things can feel like taking care of yourself, but it doesn't always work out.

You're Not the Only One

It seems like everyone else has their money and feelings under control because of the highlight reels on social media. But a lot of people are stuck in the same cycle without saying anything: spend, regret, resolve, and do it again. Naming it is the first step to change, even though the shame keeps it hidden.

Why Doom Spending Doesn’t Actually Help

At first, doom spending looks like a quick fix—a way to calm down or make a boring day more exciting. But the relief doesn't last long; it usually gives way to guilt, money worries, or the sinking feeling that the purchase didn't really change how you feel. The excitement of the "buy now" button wears off quickly, leaving you with the same empty feeling, but now you have more stuff or credit card debt. Worse, the money problems can make stress worse, which is another problem to deal with.

The bigger problem? Spending money on doom doesn't fix the main problem. A new purchase won't help you rest if you're already tired. A package won't make you feel less lonely. Things can't give you lasting safety if you want it in the middle of chaos. Instead, it turns into a cycle that keeps going: stress makes you spend money, spending money makes you feel guilty, and guilt makes you feel more stressed. To break free, you need to see this loop and figure out how to meet your emotional needs without using the checkout page.

Healthier Ways to Cope With Stress

Self-Soothing Without Spending:

When you feel like giving up, try a "dopamine pause." It's a quick, free way to get your senses going and change your mood. Play a song you like, go outside to feel the sun or wind, or smell something that calms you down, like lavender. You can also ground yourself by hugging yourself tightly, petting a dog, or holding a warm mug. These little things that you can see, hear, and feel will make you feel better without costing you money.

Make a "comfort kit" at home with things that make you feel good emotionally. You could include things like herbal tea, a journal to write in, a soft blanket, or a playlist of calming videos, like ocean waves or baking clips. When you're stressed, grab this kit instead of your phone. Making tea or wrapping yourself in warmth can satisfy the same need for care that shopping does, but it will last longer.

Don't forget how powerful talking about things can be. Text a friend you trust (even just "Having a rough day") or write an angry or emotional note that you won't send. When you say your feelings out loud or write them down, they become less intense. Doom spending is often a way to avoid feelings. Letting them be without judging them can make you want to numb out less.

Build Awareness and Interrupt the Cycle:

Begin keeping track of your triggers: Keep track of when and why you spend money on things you don't need. Is it stress from work? Feeling lonely late at night? Are you bored on the weekends? Finding patterns can help you predict when you'll be weak and plan for other options. Use apps or a notebook to write down your urges. This isn't to make you feel bad about yourself, but to learn why they happen.

Set a rule that says: Set a timer and do something that doesn't cost money (like stretching, doodling, or walking around the block) when you feel the urge to buy something. Most of the time, if you don't act on an impulse, it goes away in a few minutes. Instead of putting things in your cart when you shop online, try adding them to a "wishlist." Come back to it in 48 hours; the craving will usually be gone.

Instead of shopping as a first response, think of it as a last resort. Ask yourself, "What would I do if I couldn't spend money right now?" This makes you think of creative, healthy ways to deal with stress, like picking up an old hobby or calling someone who makes you laugh. You will change the habit loop over time.

Address the Real Need:

When you feel like spending money, stop and ask yourself, "What am I really feeling right now?" Name the feeling: sadness, boredom, loneliness, or being overwhelmed. Then ask yourself, "What do I really need right now?" If you want to connect, could you call a friend? If you need to rest, could you lie down for 10 minutes? If you want to be stimulated, could you try a free activity like watching people or listening to a podcast?

Make a "menu of comfort options" for different feelings. For instance:

  • If you're lonely, call a friend, go to a café to be around people, or cuddle a pet. 
  • If you're bored, try a new recipe, go to a free museum day, or learn a TikTok dance. 
  • If you're overwhelmed, do a 5-minute meditation, write down everything on your mind, or organize one small space.

True self-care meets the need that is behind the urge. It might take more work than just clicking "buy," but the reward is lasting relief, not regret. Start small: This week, instead of one doom spend, choose a healthier option. The goal is to make progress, not to be perfect. 

You’re Not Bad With Money —
You’re Just Trying to Feel Okay

Doom spending isn't a sign of weakness or bad money management; it's proof of how hard you've been trying to calm down in a world that can be too much to handle. When you're stressed, lonely, or unsure, it makes sense to grab something that promises quick relief, even if that relief doesn't last long. Your brain isn't working against you; it's using what it knows to help you get through emotional pain. It's not you; it's that doom spending is a quick fix that has long-term effects.

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A Coping Mechanism, Not a Character Flaw. Labeling yourself as "bad with money" or "out of control" only deepens the shame cycle, making it harder to break free.  Doom spending is just a way to deal with things that worked for you at the time, even if they didn't help you in the long run. Instead of judging past decisions, be curious about them: "What was I trying to get with this purchase?" What did I need? This change from criticism to compassion makes room for real change.

You Deserve Sustainable Comfort. The goal isn't to stop spending money or deny yourself happiness; it's to find better ways to meet those emotional needs without hurting other people. Think about how good it would feel if your coping strategies made you feel better instead of crashing and feeling bad. For example, talking to a friend on the phone, going for a walk in the park, or even just sitting with your feelings until they go away. These other options might not give you the same instant high, but they also won't leave you feeling low for a long time.

Small Steps Toward Gentle Change. You don't have to be perfect to stop the cycle of doom spending; you just need to practice and be patient. This week, start by replacing one impulse buy with something that doesn't cost anything. Pay attention to how it feels. These little decisions change the way your brain works over time, showing it that comfort doesn't have to cost money. If you mess up, you're not failing; you're learning. And every time you make a conscious choice, you're creating a kinder, more lasting way to take care of yourself.

You Don’t Need to Buy Your Way to Peace

When emotions are too much to handle, it's normal to want comfort. In a world where quick fixes are always being marketed, it's not surprising that we reach for our wallets. But the help you're looking for isn't in a box or attached to a confirmation email. To really calm down, you need to turn toward yourself, not away. You need to stop and ask yourself, "What do I really need right now?" and then listen to the answer, whether it's rest, connection, or just permission to feel without fixing.

This isn't about making you feel bad about your past choices or forcing you to change right away. It's about being gently curious about the urge to spend, not judging it. Every time you stop before clicking "buy," you make a space between impulse and action. In that space, you'll find something much more valuable than anything you could buy: the chance to choose yourself just as you are.

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